I Chose Forgiveness and It Kept Me Alive!

Have you heard the “Wild Bill” story from the German concentration camps in WW2?  This was new to me, and it blew my “theological socks” right off!  I heard this story from a very credible source, Dr. Robert Sears, S.J., who has been my and my wife Miran’s spiritual director for over 20 years, and he claims it is absolutely true.

A Polish family of five were imprisoned by the Nazis in a concentration camp.  The father evidently appeared healthy and so the Nazis pulled him aside for work detail while he had to stand and watch all four of his beloved family members shot to death and dumped into a mass grave!

Sit with that horrific scene for a moment and see how your spirit is dealing with it. 

When the American troops liberated all Nazi concentration camps in 1945, they spent weeks working in each camp.  At first the emaciated prisoners were scared of these “new soldiers” whose language they did not recognize and whose uniforms were different than their captors.  If you have never seen any archival footage of the liberation work you might want to google it, the historical footage abounds on the internet and is easy to find.  Here is just one link:  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uyGQGEgTkLI

Back to “Wild Bill” who got this nickname from the American soldiers since he had a mustache and looked like Wild Bill Hickok, the famous American folk hero who lived from 1837-1876 and who had a very distinctive mustache.  Also, his Polish name had five vowels and was unpronounceable by the Americans.  Wild Bill spoke several languages, including English, so when he was asked if he was okay with being called “Wild Bill” instead of his real name, he agreed.

Wild Bill worked tirelessly with the American soldiers to help the sick and dying receive care with dignity, often putting in 16-hour days.  Unlike his fellow prisoners he was not emaciated.  He stood strong and looked as healthy as the American soldiers who quickly questioned him, “Sir, how is it that you are so healthy, and your fellow prisoners are skeletons near death?”  His answer grabs my heart.

He said that after his entire family was killed, he had a choice.  He could forgive or he could hate and seek revenge. He said repeatedly to any soldiers who asked him how he was so healthy, I Chose Forgiveness and It Kept Me Alive!  He had endured the exact same starvation diet as others, yet he did not deteriorate into a weak skeleton.  I imagine this conversation with Wild Bill: 

Me:      Why did you choose forgiveness sir?

He:       Because anger and hate would eat me up inside, and because God loves all human beings, so how can I not love everyone?

Me:      How are you so healthy when you had a starvation diet for six years?

He:       A miracle, is the only way I can answer that question.

Me:      Did you ever want to just give up and die?

He:       Never.  If I did that, then the Nazis have triumphed over me.

Me:      What message do you have for us in 2024 sir?

He:       Love everyone and forgive quickly, lest it eat you alive!

So, there you have it!  Wild Bill’s story totally confirms what Victor Frankel said in “Man’s Search for Meaning” [Beacon Press, 2006] and which I referred to on page 74 in “The Merton Prayer:  An Exercise in Authenticity” [ACTA Press, 2022].   The prisoners who asked, “why has God allowed this to happen to me” often did not survive, whereas those who asked, “what does God wish for me to learn in this awful situation” more often did survive.

So, what will it be for me and for you?  Forgiveness or vengeance? May this day mark my constant connection with Wild Bill’s I Chose Forgiveness and It Kept Me Alive!

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Leave To God The Avenging

Apologies can be so sweet, especially when I have been waiting and waiting for the person to say they are “so sorry” for what they did!  I relish a good and thorough apology and may even ask some questions to make sure it’s a true and correct statement of what was done to hurt me!  I might just say something like this, “Okay, thanks for your apology, but I think there’s a bit more you could add to that apology, surely you must agree?  What about when you also did X, Y, or Z – don’t you want to say you’re sorry for those things too?”

If only I could write the apology language for someone who has hurt me!  “Sign right here, get this notarized, and your apology will be official and legally binding!” Wouldn’t that be even sweeter than the hurting person’s own weak words?  Maybe so, but would it be real, honest, or genuine?  Not likely.

My question today is this:  what should I do when a hurtful person does not confess, repent, or even come close to admitting that they ever did something to hurt me?  One human reaction is to strike back; you hurt me, I will hurt you!  Another human reaction is to distance myself from the hurtful person; now you see me, now you don’t! 

There is a very intriguing verse in Deuteronomy which says, “Vengeance is Mine, and retribution, in due time their foot will slip; for the day of their disaster is at hand, and their doom hurries to meet them!” [Deuteronomy 32:35 Amplified Bible]. And then in Romans we see what Paul, the Hebrew scholar, thought of this verse: “Dear friends, never take revenge. Leave that to the righteous anger of God.” [Romans 12:19 NLT].

So, the bottom line for God-fearing Christians is this when it comes to striking out at an unrepentant person who has hurt me:  Leave To God The Avenging!  Maybe a whole lot easier said than done, right?  But if it is done, our life could be a whole lot less stressful.  After all, who do I really think I am to start doing God’s job for Him!  I encourage you to think about anyone you hold a “vengeance-grudge” against, and then Leave To God The Avenging.  After all, He will get it done right as it needs to be done.  I will mess it up every time!

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